How to Deal with Life After Trauma

Trauma and Its Life Changing Power

Are you a victim or a family relative that has suffered from a traumatic event? Is there a sense of blockage or obstruction that seems to hinder you from moving past the horror of this incident? Has this event altered your life in such a way that it appears you have no starting point or new commencement that would contribute to proceeding with your new lifestyle?

If you have answered yes to any of the above questions rest assure you are not alone. There are thousands perhaps even millions that share these same grave feelings of uncertainty when it comes to dealing with trauma.

Although there are no set of perfect rules for rebounding from a traumatic event carved in stone, there are a number of things that can help provide a level of ease (even if it's temporary). Many of us try to continue as if it has never happened, but reality always puts her two cents in the story-line causing us to regroup as we travel down memory lane.

One of the first steps you can take to help the process is talking about it. This has become a very difficult thing to do for most people, because living through the horror one time is certain to be more than enough for anyone. However, there is therapeutic value to this method or remedy which brings an easy stream or allows one to take a deep breath and exhale. You can say its like you are waiting to exhale in a sense and this is one way of relieving a portion of the hurt or relieving the stress.

Another way is trying to write about it or write what you feel about the event and what it has done to you. Again there is a great deal you can learn about yourself and what has happened to you. Let'sface the facts its not like we are attending an AA meeting (no pun intended) but I am not familiar with any convention or gatherings that opens their doors to people that have been through situations that have redefined the lifestyles as it has done for us. There are religious organizations that permit such affairs but everyone in that settings has not spent an equal share of time on this road as we have, so this becomes an all eyes on me feeling which usually dissuade and frightens people away from doing this at these places. Just think people who have simple things to say shy away from standing up before their peers to say a few words, therefore its obvious a tragic event could present itself in a greater and much bolder field. So writing out the complete picture in your own words has its advantages.

Now no one really wants to replay such tragedy over and over again, but at the same time we cannot prevent human nature from taking over. See the mind works at its own pace and at its own predetermined level. This means that you have only a fraction of control over certain things that becomes visible to you through your mental capacity. If this was an untrue statement we could have pleasant dreams every night rather than share than share the horrifying nightmares that haunt our subconscious on a regular basis. So try filling the void or empty state by reiterating delightful settings and predicaments you have experienced consistently throughout you day. This can become a tool that can counteract the troubled and uncomfortable modes we tend to slip into from time to time.

One of the greatest things we have to do is tell ourselves that there is nothing wrong with us, and that we are not responsible for the evil things that the party (parties) involved has permitted to control and take over their demeanor. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! No matter what you have done it was not your fault. When you are a victim of any kind of misfortune you have to remember that you are just that; A VICTIM. Too many of us suffer from this epidemic. We only see what we have done in, during or before this trouble came our way, but the fact of the matter is we didn't ask for it to happen and we didn't deserve what has happened either. In saying that to say that if you are a victim you have to break out of that mold. Hold your head up and look at yourself in the mirror and be proud. You have to be proud because you made it through. You are still pushing on and you are striving to live your life regardless of the obstacle you had to spend unwanted time with. This is the only way to remove your sense of being from the bottom of the totem pole to a level of soaring high with the birds.

Searching for strength is a great start, but you have to be mindful of the person you choose to surround yourself with. Finding a link to your Supreme Being of choice is great. It will prove to be very beneficial to you and the new change of life you have been subjected to. Prayer works greatly because it sends out another sense of relief and this helps the rebuilding process you are presented with on a daily basis.

Hobbies also prove to generate a source of security to individuals that are in need of rebuilding self esteem and to re-establish confidence levels. Finding something that you can be good at and enjoy doing can work expeditiously in this process as well, so find something that will work for you and every time the chips seem to fall down make the best of your new hobby.

It has been about sixteen years since my traumatizing catastrophe had nearly taken my life, and these answers may not be the only suggesting, and perhaps the may not suit everyone's individual need, but here is a great place to start. It is evident that these implications have proven to work unfathomably for my situation and they offer outlets that promote my level of comfort regularly. I try to implement any number of these ideas in my every day affairs and they show a consistent level of improvement and self gratification for me on a daily basis. I hope that they can and will become just as rewarding for you as it has been for me for the past sixteen years.