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True Love yeah right!
Is there such a thing as true love? Is it possible to encounter such an event that can sweep you away? Well I challenge this question because of the obvious factors that surround this momentous engagement. If there is such a great and wonderful soul grasping movement in our existence how is it that the greater ninety percent of more of the world's population never dance to the sweetness of this tune? This highly anticipated tea party scarcely invites or receives visitation equaling the magnitude of its greatness and fulfillment. Can this artifact come with a simple answer at all?
The answer is far from simple and complex is a mere understatement. There are grave differences that challenge the true love theory to be a realistic entity. We swindle around the majority of our lives expecting to run into the perfect being that will set our entire being on fire and he or she appears to be in some form intertwined in every Keisha or Jason that passes our way. Why is this so common amongst our relationships you ask? Its simple we are searching for that which we may never have. The reason for this is because we are so caught up in the "Hollywood" fairy tales about the unknown and the unseen.
Now to say that true love does not exist is not an exact statement to live by but more importantly its serves a better purpose if we detail the love episode we agree to attach ourselves with on a daily basis. Why are we fighting with the powers that are already in play when we know that at the end of the day we are going to continue with the up and down quandaries that challenge us in the so-called relationships we are already in. Is there love some where in this situation? Is there a chance for love in this situation? If neither of the two can be implemented in the outcome of the ordeal why do we continue to stay put?
The bottom line is this; there is a chance for true love in every situation if we take the necessary steps in the right direction in our quest for finding what we know as true love. When one knows totally what it is that they are in search of in a companion they turn away from misdirection of inappropriate actions that discredit that oneness of their union together. Now this change comes with a heavy burden because it no longer belongs to one of the individuals. It becomes an adaptation for the pair in accordance to their union. In other words your feelings are mines and if you hurt then I hurt, so if I hurt you I hurt myself as well. Now it's easy to say these things but it's even harder to live these actions. However if your agendas are the same then this becomes a very minute order of guidelines to follow.
Filling emptiness is a hunger driven by human nature. It is not a mystery foe the ages yet it certainly has its place in history. It is also a force that cannot be fathomed by any instrument known to man. This drive is tremendous and is capacity is greatly unparalleled and unique. Every journey is different nonetheless everyone at some point in their lives will come face to face with the challenge of finding that one True Love.
Showing posts with label Relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Relationships. Show all posts
Thursday, February 12, 2009
Perfect Partner; Does it Really Exist?
For many moons people have tried to define this object of affection, but most have always fallen short of the prize. How do we explain this? Have we not experienced enough time in this mystic area to get at minimum or a basic understanding of its qualities? Is there a simple or rational reason for failing to create a description of this unprecedented desire?
The answer is not a simple answer and it can present itself as a very complicating opus, however so does its solution. Thus it seems to be almost impossible for the average person to adhere to.
Let us first look at the early part of this subject in order to detect the commencing cross roads that lead to the misinterpretation of this matter. The question to ask is how can you bring detail to something that you have never experienced totally and whole heartedly? This task is impossible because you have yet to taste the finery imbedded in the core of this entity. For example if I minister to you concerning the pleasures of bathing in the clear waters of the Virgin Islands while sipping on Bahama Mamas and delighting you taste buds with fresh sweet mango and watermelon chunks your mouth would probably begin to water instantly. Although you may never have had the luxury of indulging in such an event you could almost feel the sun lay against your skin causing your pores to open and your sweat glands to almost explode due to the salted moisture build up that controls your body temperature. Even though you may have never witnessed such a delighting affair human nature delineates a near perfect picture that you begin to craze for. This craze then becomes an unwarranted and indefensible desire caused by the imagery that had become a reality in your mind.
This is the same means by which we begin to search for our better halves. We always hear these magnificent love stories and twenty, thirty, and even fifty year old marriages of yesteryear, however today certainly produces far more minuet or desolate marital outcomes.
At one point or another our so-called soul mates held the title of being almost perfect right? Well at least everyone that we became attached to or held on to suited this title. The irony of it all isthat we bypassed the key words in the above phrase; almost and perfect and the very moment we neglected to appreciate or respect these words we press the fast forward button advancing us down misery road. The danger signs begin to flash as we spiral down the funnel of WOES! Every time we do this we omit Murphy's Law and the gravitational rule; what goes up must come down.
Entirely too much time is spent channeling our energy towards this old school and holiday kind of love. Its not that this love doesn't exist any more, but more importantly its not something that grows on trees. Can you say "they sure don't make them like they used to". Well boys and girls welcome to the new real world or better yet welcome to the MATRIX!. There is no perfect love although you can make your love as perfect as it can be. In plain English what works for you doesn't necessarily work for me, however we can make arrangements and sacrifice for the betterment of us.
So when you are making these monumental and life changing decisions it would benefit and be exceptionally profitable to you if you would consider two major factors;
The first would be to know what it is that you are looking for. This means you would have to spend some time with yourself in an attempt to master the person you have evolved into. This is very important because if you don't recognize where you have been you certainly cannot plan a future containing any substance and you will remain in the sphere of greif.
The second thing to consider is to be honest with yourself. You already know what your dos and don'ts just as you wills and your will nots so openly admit them to yourself and then to you chosen partner. This will present a non biased approach for you to introduce to your mate allowing open dialog between the both of you. Once you set the stage with honesty and a presumed sense of dignity you both can begin to plan a successful journey to happiness and to a "Perfect Partnership"
To sum it all up there is a definition of the Perfect Partner and it begins with the Perfect Partnership. A marriage is just that a perfect partnership and it is exactly what you make of it so make the best of what you are blessed to have or share with someone special. If you are fortunate to apply this to you life be grateful in order to be fruitful, and enjoy your Perfect Partner.
The answer is not a simple answer and it can present itself as a very complicating opus, however so does its solution. Thus it seems to be almost impossible for the average person to adhere to.
Let us first look at the early part of this subject in order to detect the commencing cross roads that lead to the misinterpretation of this matter. The question to ask is how can you bring detail to something that you have never experienced totally and whole heartedly? This task is impossible because you have yet to taste the finery imbedded in the core of this entity. For example if I minister to you concerning the pleasures of bathing in the clear waters of the Virgin Islands while sipping on Bahama Mamas and delighting you taste buds with fresh sweet mango and watermelon chunks your mouth would probably begin to water instantly. Although you may never have had the luxury of indulging in such an event you could almost feel the sun lay against your skin causing your pores to open and your sweat glands to almost explode due to the salted moisture build up that controls your body temperature. Even though you may have never witnessed such a delighting affair human nature delineates a near perfect picture that you begin to craze for. This craze then becomes an unwarranted and indefensible desire caused by the imagery that had become a reality in your mind.
This is the same means by which we begin to search for our better halves. We always hear these magnificent love stories and twenty, thirty, and even fifty year old marriages of yesteryear, however today certainly produces far more minuet or desolate marital outcomes.
At one point or another our so-called soul mates held the title of being almost perfect right? Well at least everyone that we became attached to or held on to suited this title. The irony of it all isthat we bypassed the key words in the above phrase; almost and perfect and the very moment we neglected to appreciate or respect these words we press the fast forward button advancing us down misery road. The danger signs begin to flash as we spiral down the funnel of WOES! Every time we do this we omit Murphy's Law and the gravitational rule; what goes up must come down.
Entirely too much time is spent channeling our energy towards this old school and holiday kind of love. Its not that this love doesn't exist any more, but more importantly its not something that grows on trees. Can you say "they sure don't make them like they used to". Well boys and girls welcome to the new real world or better yet welcome to the MATRIX!. There is no perfect love although you can make your love as perfect as it can be. In plain English what works for you doesn't necessarily work for me, however we can make arrangements and sacrifice for the betterment of us.
So when you are making these monumental and life changing decisions it would benefit and be exceptionally profitable to you if you would consider two major factors;
The first would be to know what it is that you are looking for. This means you would have to spend some time with yourself in an attempt to master the person you have evolved into. This is very important because if you don't recognize where you have been you certainly cannot plan a future containing any substance and you will remain in the sphere of greif.
The second thing to consider is to be honest with yourself. You already know what your dos and don'ts just as you wills and your will nots so openly admit them to yourself and then to you chosen partner. This will present a non biased approach for you to introduce to your mate allowing open dialog between the both of you. Once you set the stage with honesty and a presumed sense of dignity you both can begin to plan a successful journey to happiness and to a "Perfect Partnership"
To sum it all up there is a definition of the Perfect Partner and it begins with the Perfect Partnership. A marriage is just that a perfect partnership and it is exactly what you make of it so make the best of what you are blessed to have or share with someone special. If you are fortunate to apply this to you life be grateful in order to be fruitful, and enjoy your Perfect Partner.
Ideas that Help Keep Relationships Alive
As we travel through our teen and young adult life we become inclined to visualize our futures and try to link all the attachments of life together. These mental depictions usually include family, spouses, careers and friends. Unfortunately they don't always turn out to be the realistic and ideal perception of life in accordance to society and the pros and cons that beat our doorsteps on a daily basis. We plan for perfection and greatness by any means; nonetheless we await our inevitable outcomes like mere pawns on the battlefield.
Focusing in on the relationships or the marital areas of life presents a series of constant or consecutive fashions that become a replica to a giant thorn in the side of the emotional torso we call relations between men and women. Whether it thrives as an exhausted feeling ignited by some form of continued pattern or chain of events (simplified as here we go again) or a sketched outline of the battle before the picture tube there is certainly an obvious ill that orbits among the home front. What is the reason for this madness? Is there any cogent or rational solution for it?
Usually no one sticks around long enough to figure this one out. The disappearing act somehow takes over the mainframe of events and no longer can it become tolerable. Well folks unfortunately this is the wrong path. The fork in the road has met us head on and we bow down to a lesser of two evils. The bottom line is we take the sucker move when we abandon ship!
How do we allow the compassion for our mates and their feelings or emotions to fall through loop holes in a quest for self gratification? Is this really what we want for the person we claim we have shared so much love for? This negligence is one of the main reasons we deal with the manufactured affair issues in our life endeavors. This has become a cavity and an explosion of decay to our love sickened relationships.
Although there is no one solution to the omen that strikes our relationships down we canstill pay close attention to the obvious. At one time your involvement with your counterpart had to contain some form of real substance in order for you to pay visit to the tone of an upward bound staircase towards the pursuit of happiness with this person. Also a presence of attraction demanded an imperious stance in the core of the totem pole of your dealings with your mate.
In saying that, somewhere dwelling in the center of these particles resides the very basis and nature of the foundation needed to reproduce that fire needed to replenish your fruitful and rewarding abode together. It will take a great deal of self reflection by both parties to validate the life-line of your bond but here is where you will find your starting point.
Think back to when you met, the first time you would talk on the phone. The way you used to run to the phone to check the caller idea to see if he/she called. Remember the smile that plagued or besieged your face when your partner's ring tone played aloud from your cell phone. If you can imagine these very events you can find yourself at an infant stage of your relationship and you can connect with a building point or corner stone that could help reconstruct your relationship with your mate.
Remember the things you both used to express and share secretly to one another. We seldom remember about the things that made us most happy and appreciative of our other half. If he enjoyed you resting on his chest before he certainly could reflect back to that point if you could meet him half-way.
One great way to reflect on the past is pictures. You know they say pictures can say one thousand words well put it to the test. Get out that old photo album and lay it on the table. Hand him his favorite drink and a sandwich as soon as he hits the door and open wide. Laughing is the greatest enemy to bitterness, anger, and stress. Try it sometimes it works. It is also the easiest way to deal with a very serious issue.
Finding a way to tell him you believe in him is crucial. No matter how hard the days may have been for your man if you tell him or better yet show him you have his back; no matter what happens; He's down for whatever. There is no greater feeling for a man than the reassurance that his woman is there for you in any and everyway. He will show gratitude in one way of another.
Another thing women need to remember is that men are not mind readers and yes men are very forgetful. If he is not tickling your fancy like he used to it's not that he is being selfish it's just that men become very complacent and content which always shows up when he is set or bent on remaining with the one he has committed to. There is a good and a bad thing in this. Its good because you can rest assure that he's coming home at night; however the bad part is that he isn't feeling the challenge any more. The drive to win you over has subsided now that you have become the girth of his team. The package is complete now and his quest for companionship is over now that you are amid the stable. This could work to your advantage if only you knew! There is no greater drive for man than the thrill of the chase, and any given Sunday you can bet he will be up for the challenge. The key word to this working in your favor ladies is
BE CREATIVE!!!!!
Focusing in on the relationships or the marital areas of life presents a series of constant or consecutive fashions that become a replica to a giant thorn in the side of the emotional torso we call relations between men and women. Whether it thrives as an exhausted feeling ignited by some form of continued pattern or chain of events (simplified as here we go again) or a sketched outline of the battle before the picture tube there is certainly an obvious ill that orbits among the home front. What is the reason for this madness? Is there any cogent or rational solution for it?
Usually no one sticks around long enough to figure this one out. The disappearing act somehow takes over the mainframe of events and no longer can it become tolerable. Well folks unfortunately this is the wrong path. The fork in the road has met us head on and we bow down to a lesser of two evils. The bottom line is we take the sucker move when we abandon ship!
How do we allow the compassion for our mates and their feelings or emotions to fall through loop holes in a quest for self gratification? Is this really what we want for the person we claim we have shared so much love for? This negligence is one of the main reasons we deal with the manufactured affair issues in our life endeavors. This has become a cavity and an explosion of decay to our love sickened relationships.
Although there is no one solution to the omen that strikes our relationships down we canstill pay close attention to the obvious. At one time your involvement with your counterpart had to contain some form of real substance in order for you to pay visit to the tone of an upward bound staircase towards the pursuit of happiness with this person. Also a presence of attraction demanded an imperious stance in the core of the totem pole of your dealings with your mate.
In saying that, somewhere dwelling in the center of these particles resides the very basis and nature of the foundation needed to reproduce that fire needed to replenish your fruitful and rewarding abode together. It will take a great deal of self reflection by both parties to validate the life-line of your bond but here is where you will find your starting point.
Think back to when you met, the first time you would talk on the phone. The way you used to run to the phone to check the caller idea to see if he/she called. Remember the smile that plagued or besieged your face when your partner's ring tone played aloud from your cell phone. If you can imagine these very events you can find yourself at an infant stage of your relationship and you can connect with a building point or corner stone that could help reconstruct your relationship with your mate.
Remember the things you both used to express and share secretly to one another. We seldom remember about the things that made us most happy and appreciative of our other half. If he enjoyed you resting on his chest before he certainly could reflect back to that point if you could meet him half-way.
One great way to reflect on the past is pictures. You know they say pictures can say one thousand words well put it to the test. Get out that old photo album and lay it on the table. Hand him his favorite drink and a sandwich as soon as he hits the door and open wide. Laughing is the greatest enemy to bitterness, anger, and stress. Try it sometimes it works. It is also the easiest way to deal with a very serious issue.
Finding a way to tell him you believe in him is crucial. No matter how hard the days may have been for your man if you tell him or better yet show him you have his back; no matter what happens; He's down for whatever. There is no greater feeling for a man than the reassurance that his woman is there for you in any and everyway. He will show gratitude in one way of another.
Another thing women need to remember is that men are not mind readers and yes men are very forgetful. If he is not tickling your fancy like he used to it's not that he is being selfish it's just that men become very complacent and content which always shows up when he is set or bent on remaining with the one he has committed to. There is a good and a bad thing in this. Its good because you can rest assure that he's coming home at night; however the bad part is that he isn't feeling the challenge any more. The drive to win you over has subsided now that you have become the girth of his team. The package is complete now and his quest for companionship is over now that you are amid the stable. This could work to your advantage if only you knew! There is no greater drive for man than the thrill of the chase, and any given Sunday you can bet he will be up for the challenge. The key word to this working in your favor ladies is
BE CREATIVE!!!!!
Searching for Love: The Power Within
Unlike the movies that generate multi-million dollar income and parades of regular people flocking to the giant screens Love happens to be a vital and essential attachment to the lifespan of the world's population. Now it varies in many ways as it has proven to be defined in a collage of degrees in accordance to the masses.
Evidence of the nature of measure used by people exercise its existence; dwells extensively amongst scales that fluctuate in the age group, gender and preference region (just to name a few). There is also a no holds barred presence that appears when the evaluation of the distinctive levels of attraction from one being to another come into play, which ultimately submerges detailed definitions of attraction that ascend right out of the ball park. Even so, the irony will divulge itself whenever the words are all spread across the board of indiscriminative evaluation.
What is the obsession that becomes widely spread across the board concerning the occasional life long quest for some and a meager hit and miss for others? Is there a proper or utmost innocent and concrete definition for this required entity?
To answer such a question would be almost the equivalent to finding the cure for any world epidemic. It is nearly impossible, but there are countless abbreviated statements that can appeal to the taste-buds of many. The schematics will depend on the individual and the idealistic initiatives or inspirations of the person that lays beneath the surface.
Our endless struggle for this perfect entity always seems to reflect on the channels we choose or utilize to perceive such a satisfactory rate for our need for love. Yet it is only what we make of such an article. Passion, for example, has its own channel of arousal and in its own way it captivates a total different essence from either perspective of the spectrum. You may become subdued by a simple touch of your partner's lips as it may differ for your partner. This doesn't prove to be correct or incorrect nonetheless it is a fact that you will experience different valves and travel through different corridors of pleasures which depends solely on your infatuation with your partner of choice.
This concludes the foundation upon which love at first sight resides. Again if you skillfully look into what determines the make up of your distinctive ingredients you sum up as love, you can see how this is possible. Remember love varies in accordance to the beholder of the defining iniquities of the item. You can love the way a car looks, or drives by having only two separate encounters with the car; one by looking at it and the latter by driving it. Either way the outcome and the use of the word love is determined by the absolute digestive tactics you utilize during your evaluation process.
Love, one of the greatest wonders of the world, has an awe-inspiring and overwhelming force on life that has the capacity to regulate or dictate the behavior and performance of anyone tangled in its web of affection. Its unknown source resides in the breast of every species on the planet and will not fall short of its obligation to conquer.
In your quest for finding love search inside yourself first for those things that initiate a sense of fulfillment and pleasure. Once you have a predetermined platform that appears to show a sense of understanding or a sense of filling the void, you will soon begin to channel into existence a better understanding of what it is you feel compelled to gather in order to receive love. The opening of your inner self is the beginning of the evolution or the fruition state in which you can focus on what you undergo during your journey for the wholesome or total need for love.
Remember love is what you make of it so make the better choices during your journey although this cannot guarantee a perfect love it can guarantee you are putting your best foot forward while you are preparing for your final match.
Evidence of the nature of measure used by people exercise its existence; dwells extensively amongst scales that fluctuate in the age group, gender and preference region (just to name a few). There is also a no holds barred presence that appears when the evaluation of the distinctive levels of attraction from one being to another come into play, which ultimately submerges detailed definitions of attraction that ascend right out of the ball park. Even so, the irony will divulge itself whenever the words are all spread across the board of indiscriminative evaluation.
What is the obsession that becomes widely spread across the board concerning the occasional life long quest for some and a meager hit and miss for others? Is there a proper or utmost innocent and concrete definition for this required entity?
To answer such a question would be almost the equivalent to finding the cure for any world epidemic. It is nearly impossible, but there are countless abbreviated statements that can appeal to the taste-buds of many. The schematics will depend on the individual and the idealistic initiatives or inspirations of the person that lays beneath the surface.
Our endless struggle for this perfect entity always seems to reflect on the channels we choose or utilize to perceive such a satisfactory rate for our need for love. Yet it is only what we make of such an article. Passion, for example, has its own channel of arousal and in its own way it captivates a total different essence from either perspective of the spectrum. You may become subdued by a simple touch of your partner's lips as it may differ for your partner. This doesn't prove to be correct or incorrect nonetheless it is a fact that you will experience different valves and travel through different corridors of pleasures which depends solely on your infatuation with your partner of choice.
This concludes the foundation upon which love at first sight resides. Again if you skillfully look into what determines the make up of your distinctive ingredients you sum up as love, you can see how this is possible. Remember love varies in accordance to the beholder of the defining iniquities of the item. You can love the way a car looks, or drives by having only two separate encounters with the car; one by looking at it and the latter by driving it. Either way the outcome and the use of the word love is determined by the absolute digestive tactics you utilize during your evaluation process.
Love, one of the greatest wonders of the world, has an awe-inspiring and overwhelming force on life that has the capacity to regulate or dictate the behavior and performance of anyone tangled in its web of affection. Its unknown source resides in the breast of every species on the planet and will not fall short of its obligation to conquer.
In your quest for finding love search inside yourself first for those things that initiate a sense of fulfillment and pleasure. Once you have a predetermined platform that appears to show a sense of understanding or a sense of filling the void, you will soon begin to channel into existence a better understanding of what it is you feel compelled to gather in order to receive love. The opening of your inner self is the beginning of the evolution or the fruition state in which you can focus on what you undergo during your journey for the wholesome or total need for love.
Remember love is what you make of it so make the better choices during your journey although this cannot guarantee a perfect love it can guarantee you are putting your best foot forward while you are preparing for your final match.
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